Become an Everyday Hero
Focus on four overlapping elements of reliability, and you'll become a hero to a child.
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Note: January is National Mentoring Month, which serves as an opportunity for all adults—ministry workers, mentors, and parents—to celebrate and review the powerful relationships they share with children. Forward this column to them with your affirmation and encouragement for the critical roles they play.
Once, while swimming in the ocean, a large wave knocked over my daughter, who was five years old at the time. The strong undertow held her underwater and began to pull her out to sea. As she slid past me toward open water, I looked down and saw my little girls' eyes wide open looking back at me. I had the impression she was smiling. Adrenaline and instincts quickly engaged as I grabbed her tiny arm. I pulled her on my shoulder and in a shaky voice asked if she was okay. She said, and I will never forget these words, "I wasn't scared. I knew you were here."
Every child will go through rough times, but does every child have reason to feel unafraid because she knows she can count on someone to be there?
Kids long for someone to rely on, because life offers plenty of opportunities for disappointment. Evidence of that disappointment exists all around us.
More than we adults ever realize, children feel unsteady and desperately want to grab hold of a reliable hand. No matter the circumstances, you can inject confidence and stability into a youngster's life when they believe they can count on you. But count on you for what?
Focus on just four overlapping elements of reliability, and you'll become an everyday hero to a child—yours, or perhaps the child you mentor.
You can count on me …
To care. Everyone is aware of the demands of taking care of a newborn. We also know that the intensity with which a parent cares for a child typically declines as the child becomes increasingly self-sufficient. In contrast, however, his or her need to be cared about remains at the same high level.
For example, express active interest in what happens during and after school—the times kids will face their greatest number of adolescent challenges, problems, and pains. We adults know that children must learn to face life's tests, but they need not learn those lessons in isolation.
"We may not be able to make their problems disappear, but even the promise of our presence and concern will help ease their pain," say psychologists Dr. Tim Clinton & Dr. Gary Sibcy in Loving Your Child Too Much.
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