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 Loving the Fishbowl LifeHow this pastor's family thrives in the midst of a busy ministry.
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LaVon and I were in our mid-20s with a three-year-old and a newborn when the bishop sent us to start a new church on the south side of Kansas City. Today my wife and I are approaching our 25th wedding anniversary. Danielle is a sophomore in college and Rebecca is a junior in high school. And we've all survived … so far. The girls survived my 80-hour weeks. They survived living in the fishbowl, feeling that eyes were constantly on them, occasionally not being invited to parties for fear their father would find out what was happening there. They survived my interviews of their dates and our refusal to let them get tattoos or dye their hair blue even when all the other kids were doing it. They survived requirements to attend worship and Sunday school, give away 10 percent of their allowance, and participate in mission projects. They survived periods of doubting their faith. And today these girls have become remarkable young women. They didn't just survive. Somehow, by the grace of God, they thrived. Looking back, I see we did some things right with our PKs. Here are a few of the lessons I learned. 1. You are not indispensable to your church, but you are indispensable to your family. Three things happened as a result: (1) My daughter knew that she came before the church. (2) The church knew that their pastor put his daughter's health before the church, and they knew this was the right thing. Several people told me I modeled something important for a congregation of driven business people. And (3) our staff and leaders saw that I trusted them. This is an extreme example. More typical is asking to be excused from a committee meeting or Bible study for parent-teacher conferences or a band concert. Someone else can lead the meeting, but no one else can be you at your child's key events. Having said that, I did not make every ball game and concert. As busy as kids are today, I would have to quit my job to attend everything. I picked the most important events and tried to make it to others if I could. 2. Look for ways to include your children in ministry. |        
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Abigail (pastor) Taylor
Pastor Hamilton is a unique example of what Christ would have required to be done. With an example such as this, very many people will see the true love of God manifested, and besides, many will receive the truth of God's Word, and want to belong to Jesus Christ. Please keep this much needed article going. God bless this family for being a blessing to all who read. God bless the staff of Chrisianity today. Love in Jesus! Abigail
Rev. Shayo
I wish I had read this article 20 years ago. I could have avoided the mistake of thinking that Church depended solely on myself. Currently I am mopping the after effects of the blunders I made then.
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