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10 Tips for Balancing Your Ministry and Family
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I slipped into his room late one evening as I arrived home from work only to find him wide awake, snuggled under the covers.

"Hey Dad, it's Wednesday," my 12-year-old said. "Tonight was our date night, Dad! You forgot!"

Somewhere between the deadlines and the donors and the to-do list, I'd forgotten the most important ministry God had entrusted to me, that of my family. It had been weeks since my wife and I had a date together, just the two of us, without our work worlds on the agenda, and I knew things needed to change and fast. Instead of focusing on work, I needed to focus on my family and let them know they were just as important as my ministry work.

Family matters

We set out to meet our ministry goals and somehow in the midst of our work, we forget that waiting at home is that young boy waiting to play catch, that teen-age girl who needs to talk about boys or that spouse that needs to be treated with all the attention we used to give when we were dating. Why does it happen? How does it happen? How can you prevent it from happening to you? And why do we feel like we need to work so long and hard?

Recently, as I met for a cup of coffee with a ministry leader, in between the sips of Starbucks and the glint of the bright sunshine on that warm summer day, the truth about his family came out as it has many times before with other ministry leaders. The leader I was meeting with told me the real story of where things were with his ministry. You see, the ministry was doing wonderfully well; it was his family that was suffering, and so much so that he ended up stepping aside temporarily to focus on them until things turned around. I was glad he had decided to do this but surprised that I'd seen another scenario where ministry had edged out a leader's family.

Nobel Prize winning Harvard biologist George Wald has some thoughts: "What one really needs is not the Nobel laureates but love. How do you think one gets to be a Nobel laureate? Wanting love, that's how. Wanting it so bad one works all the time and ends up a Nobel laureate. It's a consolation prize. What matters is love."

Let me ask you this: If we were sitting at that Starbucks near your house and talking over our day, could I ask you a pretty personal question? What's the Nobel Prize you're striving for? Is it possible that the prize you're striving for has edged out your precious family or that spouse you were madly in love with during your courtship days? They need some of your best time, not just your leftover time.

Ten tips

Well, before the Starbucks gets cold and we've both gotta run, if it's time for a bit of a re-balancing of ministry and family, here are 10 ideas to jump start your thinking and help you get back on track. Got a pen? Jot 'em down on your napkin.

  1. Get your family together and craft a family mission statement. It's just as important to be intentional as a family as it is to do so where you work. We wanted our family to be on the same page as to why we were here on earth and what principles would govern our time together; we wanted a grid for decision making and conflict to pass through. Need a head start? Here's ours.

    "Our family is going through life's journey together, growing roots in Christ and wings for our mission, becoming equipped to make a difference in our world by learning to live like Jesus, for Jesus and in Jesus."

    We've designed other elements of this mission statement into the shape of a house with walls of laughter, doors of prayer and windows of other important character qualities.
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olajumoke olufayo

August 28, 2015  3:59am

This will surely help devoting more time for the work of God. To do a team work

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August 18, 2015  6:07pm

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Pastor Edward Qaser

February 02, 2015  6:18am

Dear Brother,Sister, Greeting in the precious and mighty name our Lord Jesus Christ, It is my privilege to have an email with you. Well I have got your email address from your ministry's web site and found great anointing upon your ministry as you are serving the Master, we are moved by Holy Spirit to contact to and invite you in Pakistan to preach His name. Permit me to give you some information about me and our Ministry. My name is Pastor Edward qaser. I am from Lahore ,Pakistan a country in Asia. I am serving the Lord with my evangelistic ministry named, Evangelistic Gospel Ministries of Pakistan to glorify His name and there is good team of Ministers working with us in the field of Harvest in Pakistan to glorify His name. Our main focus is to reach each and every people in the country at least for few moments to proclaim the name of the Lord Jesus Christ " the gate way to the Kingdom of Heaven and eternal Salvation in through His precious Blood". Dear minister, People of Pakistan needs of knowing about the truth and Love of our Lord Jesus Christ especially the poor people are deprived one. As you already know that this nation is under the heavy authority of the Devils who are really tormenting and destroying this precious nation. Brother,EGM Pakistan is also an Humanity base organization and working for the development of the human beings its main object is to mitigate the effects of poverty, disease, illiteracy, bad governance, disasters, human rights abuse and environmental degradation, on the human race at grass roots level and against all odds, restore its decorum. We accomplish this mission by implementing various community based programs like Computer Centre, Sewing Centre, (For the empowerment of women and made them self employed),Different flood relief addressing challenges faced by Children and Youth, Women and the Girl Child, Orphans and Vulnerable Children,. We strictly adhere to the principles of democracy, equity and non-discrimination.All these projects running by our ministry are especially for the empowerment of women and provide employment a number of people . projects in disasters,provide food poor and disable families, Friend"s Fashion Centre,Orphans Centre, I want to invite you with great love and encouraging words to come to Pakistan and bring the Good News of Lord Jesus Christ and share you’re anointing and blessing with the people of Pakistan. The word says "Yoke shall be broken by the anointing", your contribution in the field of harvest through preaching in Pakistan shall edify body of Christ. There is only one percent Christian in Pakistan out of 180 million people. Now out of one percent Christians most of them are nominal Christians so there is an urgent need of Servants of the Lord. " For the earnest expectation of the creation eagerly waits for the revealing of sons of God" (Romans 8:19). I will keep on praying for your visit to Pakistan . May Lord lay burden on your heart for your Pakistani brethren. we are inviting you under the guidance of Holy Spirit to come to Pakistan to conduct crusades, seminars, Leadership conferences Evangelical Meetings It will be a great blessing of Pakistani Christian if you visit Pakistan and Glorify His name. Prayer fully waiting for the reply. You can also contact us back through email. God Bless you. Pastor Edward Qaser P.O box 10235,New Garden Town, LahorePakistan Ph:+92-300-8437639 Pastor Edward Qaser on facebook www.egmpk.blogspot.com www.swatreliefproject.blogspot.com www.gojravict imspak.blogspot.com

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Kimberly Aiken

January 27, 2015  9:57am

This article was exactly what both my husband and I needed and it was right on time as I read it this morning. Thank you for the article!

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Patrina Randolph

June 23, 2014  3:51pm

Great article! I will use it to reinforce some things I've been teaching in a ministry class, but more importantly I will make sure I'm diligent applying these principles in my home.

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